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Frank Counsels for Google Generation

‘FELT HE WAS GOD’S WILL FOR ME. PARENTS DON’T KNOW. WE GOT INTIMATE. AFTER YEARS OF HAVING FUN WITH ME, HE DUMPED ME AND MOVED ON WITH ANOTHER GIRL. BUT I CAN’T. STILL THINKING ABOUT HIM!’ – A GIRL’S CRY AND DUKE JEYARAJ’S RESPONSE FROM THE BIBLE

A GIRL: ‘I BELIEVED THIS PARTICULAR BOY WAS GOD’S WILL FOR ME. I MAINTAINED A RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM WITHOUT MY PARENT’S KNOWLEDGE. WE GOT INTIMATE. NOW AFTER YEARS OF ‘ENJOYING’ ME, HE REFUSES TO MARRY ME. HE NOW SAYS, ‘IT IS NOT GOD’S WILL THAT WE MARRY’. HE HAS MOVED ON. BUT I AM NOT ABLE TO FORGET HIM!’

Duke Jeyaraj’s answer to a girl who asked this question

At the end of the day, one must understand this: according to I Cor. 7:39 – you can marry ANYONE but only in the Lord. So, ‘finding God’s will’ for marriage is a bit over-rated when God has already told you to marry ANY believer of YOUR CHOICE. Yes, we must seek God before finalizing life partner. Jesus prayed through the night before choosing 12 disciples (Luke 6:12-13). In your case – what disturbs me is this: perhaps your confidence it was God’s Will to marry that boy made you move with that boy closely and secretly (without parents knowledge). This is wrong and sinful (Sorry – But I will be frank here for your own good). Ezek. 23, Gen. 26, Prov. 7 – these passages talk about the sinfulness of physical intimacy before marriage. Watch these videos where I talk about this in biblical light, without beating around the bush: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fU2CmyKDqZ8&t=7s / https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FrE83K1d4Oo / https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bSimp0-jsV0&t=37s / https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nANwM2eqqH4 / https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fU2CmyKDqZ8&t=7s

Can anything good come out of this sad situation you are in? Yes! As we read in Hosea 2 (read the full chapter), we see that God puts ‘hedges’/’blocks’, at times, when we chase things displeasing to him (Hos. 2:6). So, in this case, it is quite possible, the Lord, out of love for you, put a block by allowing the boy’s heart to harden and say ‘no’ to you! Why? God sees the end from the beginning (Isa. 46:10). He knows the turmoils you could go through if you had gone ahead and married this boy. So, God allowed the boy’s heart to harden the same way Pharaoh’s heart was hardened (Ex. 9:12). Now, having understood this, you should move on. Ask the Lord sorry: for maintaining secrecy about this from your parents, for the physical intimacy before marriage. The blood of Jesus will cleanse (Isa. 1:18 – scarlet sins, unprintable sins will be washed white). God justifies (Romans 3:26; 4:5; 8:33). It means in his eyes, when you come in repentance and faith, you are just-as-if-you-have-never-sinned. And you must move on with life. God is able to bring another boy who would love you and marry you, just the way you are (no matter what your past is). God is able to bring into your life a boy who will have the words of Phil. 3:13 in his mouth: But one thing I do: “Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead…” By the way, you should not broadcast your past, as if it was the Goodnews of the Gospel! Only the Goodnew is worth broadcasting – not your sinful, colorful past. If a boy asks a point-blank question about your past, he is not marriage-material! He is not worth marrying!

(Duke Jeyaraj, is the founder of Grabbing the Google Generation from Gehenna Mission, the G4 Mission. Duke has written a hard-hitting book on the topics which this question embraces – sex, love, marriage, romance, porn, etc (50 such topics) called STRAIGHT TALK (edition 2020). Find that book on Amazon. Find out more about Duke’s reader-supported ministry at http://www.dukev.org. You may choose to write to Duke via emailduke@gmail.com or via WhatsApp at 91-8886040605).

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Duke Jeyaraj was born to missionary parents in Vellore, South India and was saved at the age of 11 and committed for ministry and received the Holy Spirit Baptism at the age of 13. God opened the door for him to preach first as a school boy at the age of 16. He is a trained Agricultural Engineer [B. Tech from SHIATS, Allahabad, India], who did not pursue a career in the line of his education but nevertheless enjoys growing cacti in the balcony of his rented Chennai flat, during his spare time! He could have been a sports commentator but prefers to wrap Bible Truth around sports magic moments and other interesting-to-Google Genners contemporary events. God’s call upon him made him utterly restless and he obeyed that call to by founding the Grabbing the Google Generation from Gehenna Mission (G4 Mission) in 2006 to finally find serenity after having served as a International Bank Customer Service Executive/Youth Pastor/Bible College Teacher/Missionary/Youth Mag Editor. G4 Mission is not a church but an inter-denominational ministry to present-day people, a ministry which Duke works full time for, as an itinerant presenter/preacher/writer-at-residence since 2008 along with his wife, putting to use the formal theological training he received from Southern Asia Bible College in Bangalore-India [M. Div - a Gold Medal performance in 2001 & Doctor of Ministry - with project on Making Disciples of Modern Young Working Professionals Among India's Google Generation, World-wide]. Several Christian publications have carried Duke's articles over the years and at present Aim Magazine (the voice of  the Evangelical Fellowship of India an umbrella body of over 65,000 Indian churches/organisations), regularly carries Duke's writings. Duke's Bible-teaching book on Sex, Love, Marriage, Porn and more called, Straight Talk, is presently available on Amazon and Google Books.  Duke has preached by invitation beyond his national borders (we are talking about nations such as Bangladesh, Singapore, Germany, Nepal and the United Arab Emirates). Duke is called a 'Reverend' by a leading denomination (even as his ministry remains indepedent and inter-church).  Duke is called ‘dad’ by Dale (now a St. Stephen's Delhi student) and Datasha (now in Class 9) and ‘hubby’ by Evangelin (the daughter of a missionary couple to Odisha who is a hospital admin grad currently studying M. A. in Biblical Studies with SAIACS Bangalore) and calls Chennai, India, his current home after living in Hyderabad till June 2021. In case your curiosity is triggered by hearing all this, you may checkout www.dukewords.com [if you are the reading plain text type], www.soundcloud.com/shoutaloud [if you are part of the audio-listening tribe] and www.youtube.com/visitduke [if you group yourself with the video-steaming generation])

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