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Emotional Affairs Are Affairs Too

Duke Jeyaraj

I found myself agreeing with this Deccan Chronicle article (April 20, 2021). Yes, non-sexual affair is cheating too. Oh for husbands who would understand the emotional needs of wives the way Elkanah understood that need of his wife Hannah! Hear his romance-laced conversation with his wife: “Hannah, why do you weep? And why do not eat? Am I not more to you than ten sons?” (1 Sam. 1:8 ESV). “Do not deprive each other” – the biblical command given to couples by God covers not only sexual union but also emotional union as no meaningful sexual union takes place without emotional union (I Cor. 7:5). Husbands,  there must be times, when we remove the laptop from our laps, and have our wives sit there and whisper sweet nothings to them! Wives, do not chase online, non-sexual affairs, via chat apps because that would displease God who underscored the mutual exclusivity of married partners in Song of Songs (Song of Solomon 2:16; 6:3 – ‘I am my beloved and my beloved is mine’ – or in other words, ‘the romantic conversations I need to be having only with my husband, I should not be serectly having with someone else’). May the Lord strengthen our marriages!

(Duke’s book, Straight Talk, has chapters which address these and allied issues. WhatsApp us at 91-8886040605 to buy it).

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Duke Jeyaraj was born to missionary parents in Vellore, South India and was saved at the age of 11 and committed for ministry and received the Holy Spirit Baptism at the age of 13. God opened the door for him to preach first as a school boy at the age of 16. He is a trained Agricultural Engineer [B. Tech from SHIATS, Allahabad, India], who did not pursue a career in the line of his education but nevertheless enjoys growing cacti in the balcony of his rented Chennai flat, during his spare time! He could have been a sports commentator but prefers to wrap Bible Truth around sports magic moments and other interesting-to-Google Genners contemporary events. God’s call upon him made him utterly restless and he obeyed that call to by founding the Grabbing the Google Generation from Gehenna Mission (G4 Mission) in 2006 to finally find serenity after having served as a International Bank Customer Service Executive/Youth Pastor/Bible College Teacher/Missionary/Youth Mag Editor. G4 Mission is not a church but an inter-denominational ministry to present-day people, a ministry which Duke works full time for, as an itinerant presenter/preacher/writer-at-residence since 2008 along with his wife, putting to use the formal theological training he received from Southern Asia Bible College in Bangalore-India [M. Div - a Gold Medal performance in 2001 & Doctor of Ministry - with project on Making Disciples of Modern Young Working Professionals Among India's Google Generation, World-wide]. Several Christian publications have carried Duke's articles over the years and at present Aim Magazine (the voice of  the Evangelical Fellowship of India an umbrella body of over 65,000 Indian churches/organisations), regularly carries Duke's writings. Duke's Bible-teaching book on Sex, Love, Marriage, Porn and more called, Straight Talk, is presently available on Amazon and Google Books.  Duke has preached by invitation beyond his national borders (we are talking about nations such as Bangladesh, Singapore, Germany, Nepal and the United Arab Emirates). Duke is called a 'Reverend' by a leading denomination (even as his ministry remains indepedent and inter-church).  Duke is called ‘dad’ by Dale (now a St. Stephen's Delhi student) and Datasha (now in Class 9) and ‘hubby’ by Evangelin (the daughter of a missionary couple to Odisha who is a hospital admin grad currently studying M. A. in Biblical Studies with SAIACS Bangalore) and calls Chennai, India, his current home after living in Hyderabad till June 2021. In case your curiosity is triggered by hearing all this, you may checkout www.dukewords.com [if you are the reading plain text type], www.soundcloud.com/shoutaloud [if you are part of the audio-listening tribe] and www.youtube.com/visitduke [if you group yourself with the video-steaming generation])

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