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Emotional Affairs Are Affairs Too

Duke Jeyaraj

I found myself agreeing with this Deccan Chronicle article (April 20, 2021). Yes, non-sexual affair is cheating too. Oh for husbands who would understand the emotional needs of wives the way Elkanah understood that need of his wife Hannah! Hear his romance-laced conversation with his wife: “Hannah, why do you weep? And why do not eat? Am I not more to you than ten sons?” (1 Sam. 1:8 ESV). “Do not deprive each other” – the biblical command given to couples by God covers not only sexual union but also emotional union as no meaningful sexual union takes place without emotional union (I Cor. 7:5). Husbands,  there must be times, when we remove the laptop from our laps, and have our wives sit there and whisper sweet nothings to them! Wives, do not chase online, non-sexual affairs, via chat apps because that would displease God who underscored the mutual exclusivity of married partners in Song of Songs (Song of Solomon 2:16; 6:3 – ‘I am my beloved and my beloved is mine’ – or in other words, ‘the romantic conversations I need to be having only with my husband, I should not be serectly having with someone else’). May the Lord strengthen our marriages!

(Duke’s book, Straight Talk, has chapters which address these and allied issues. WhatsApp us at 91-8886040605 to buy it).