13 RUNS IN TOTAL IN A FIVE-MATCH ODI SERIES TO 600 PLUS RUNS IN ONE WORLD CUP: THE COMPLETE TRANSFORMATION OF ROHIT SHARMA. CAN YOU BE TRANSFORMED? Duke Jeyaraj after India-Sri Lanka Game in the 2019 World Cup

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After India beat Sri Lanka in the final group game of the 2019 World Cup without breaking a sweat, riding on a nearly 190-run opening stand between Rohit Sharma and K. L. Rahul to top the table and set up a World Cup Semi-Final meeting with fourth-placed New Zealand on 9 July 2019 (which also happens to be the day of the 18th wedding anniversary of Evan and I) – I hit the rewind button on Rohit Sharma’s career.

“How to cook maggi – boil with hot water ,add masala and wait until Rohit Sharma gets out..” That was a troll Tweet about Rohit during the days when consistency was far from him his pre-2013 career (he made his ODI debut for India in 2007). In a series in which he played 5 ODIs Vs Sri Lanka in Sri Lanka, the year being 2012, he scored a grand total 13 runs in five innings (Read that again: 13 runs off five completed innings). His scores in the five games according to a NDTV 4 August 2012 post: 5-0-0-4-4. Bowled, bowled, LBW, LBW and bowled. A sarcastic tweet was put after his last dismissal: “No difference between Rohit Sharma’s legs and the stumps. Both don’t move unless hit by a ball.” It was a the lowest total score by a specialist batsmen in any ODI series ever!

Rohit Sharma, the man who once scored the least among of runs among specialist batsmen ever in a ODI series, is the present highest run-scorer with another possible two games to go in the 2019 World Cup. What a transformation! What a stupendous U-Turn! His series of scores in the 9 group games in the 2019 World Cup: “Against South Africa, Rohit led a tricky chase for India with an unbeaten 122 before scoring 57 against Australia. He then smashed 140 against Pakistan before missing out against Afghanistan and West Indies. He then smashed 102 against England, 104 against Bangladesh before scoring before scoring 103 against Sri Lanka” (as the India Today put it). As I write these lines, Rohit is likely to beat Sachin’s World record of 673 runs in a single ODI World Cup with two possible full innings to go!

In his interview to the media post the Sri Lanka game, Rohit Sharma talked about the secret for this totally amazing transformation: his family (his wife and little daughter) who help him stay away from thinking about his cricket exploits, his forever focus on the present… etc.

Do you want your life to be transformed completely in every sense of the word? Are you tired of your old life? Then you need Jesus. The Bible says, “If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has gone, the new has come!” (2 Cor. 5:17).  A living daily relationship with Jesus will transform your life! That’s what the Bible teaches! Let the Holy Spirit fill you and your life will be changed. The Bible says in I Samuel 10:6 – “Then the Spirit of the Lord will come upon you mightily, and you shall prophesy with them and be changed into another man” (NASB). This Jesus transformed my life through his Spirit. Let me illustrate that with couple of incidents  from my School life.

I could not even say two lines on the stage when I was in school. The presence of some pretty girls in a school drama I was in made me super nervous. So nervous that I fluffed the lines I had to say that school drama. I went back home that day and told the Lord Jesus: “Never on stage for you, Lord!” But then the Lord Jesus filled me with his Holy Spirit. And I went back to the very same stage – a wooden stage in the Ida Scudder School – and preached a Gospel message for about 10 minutes (on 9 August 1991, as a 16 year old 12th grader). I preached without notes on the subject of Hell. There were about 500 people who listened to it – both students and teachers. A girl fainted at the end of that message. I have not stopped preaching hence forth. It was a miraculous transformation – a transformation that happened because of Jesus who died for me on the Cross and His gracious Spirit who fills me with spiritual gifts.

Would you give your life to Jesus? He can completely transform your life? Would you stay filled with the Holy Spirit? Your life will never be the same!

 

(Rev. Dr. Duke Jeyaraj is the founder of Grabbing the Google Generation from Gehenna Mission. This is a reader supported Indian ministry to present day people. Find out more at www.dukev.org. Read Duke’s articles here: www.dukewords.com. Watch Duke’s messages at www.youtube.com/visitduke. Follow Duke on Facebook: www.facebook.com/dukebook).

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

ENGLAND’S SUCCESSFUL STRATEGY IN TWO MUST-WIN GAMES & OUR STRATEGY WHEN IT COMES TO SHARING THE GOSPEL WITH THE GOSPEL-IGNORANT / Duke Jeyaraj

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Sambit Bal writes these lines which express the clear-headed thinking that England had – a strategy that helped them beat both India (undefeated until that point in the Cup) and consistent New Zealand) in back to back, must-win games: “England’s first 20 overs against India brought 145 runs without a wicket. India managed 83 for 1 (in reply). England’s first 20 overs today brought them 133 runs for one wicket. New Zealand crumbled to 87 for 4 (in reply).” In other words, England are trying to play the first 20 overs of the 50 Over One Day International format like a T20 game! While other teams focus only on not losing wickets, England focused on not just losing wickets but also on not losing tempo. This strategy has given them two wins in two must-win games – no mean achievement as it has come in a World Cup at home, where there is huge pressure to perform!

Do you have strategy when it comes to sharing the Gospel with a friend from another faith? Apostle Paul had. In his presentation of the Gospel with Athens, he had this strategy: to go from what the audience knew and appreciated to what the audience did not know and may find offensive. So, he began with the appreciation of their religiosity in Acts 17:22 (not offensive) before he spoke about the audience’s need for repentance and preparation to face the coming the day of judgement in Acts 17:30-31 (offensive). With this strategy in mind, Apostle Paul quoted from a secular, non-biblical poet they were familiar with in Acts 17:28 (not offensive) before he made plain the Bible Truth about the need for repentance and a preparedness for the day of judgement in Acts 17:30-31 (offensive). Paul perhaps learnt this approach from his Lord Jesus who first talked about thirst with the Samaritan woman at the well in John 4:7 (not offensive), before he talked about her five failed marriages and her present live-in relationships in John 4:16-18  (offensive).

Find something to genuinely appreciate in the person you are sharing the Gospel with. Or talk about what the person you are sharing the Gospel with is already interested in (may be movies, music or sports). You may have to do the home-work of reading-up on those topics of interest to those you are sharing the Good News with. Don’t mind that sweat. You may also talk about the fact that God loves the person. This fact most people appreciate in this love-starved world. “You were in the mind of God, before you even entered the womb of your mother! That is what the Bible says in Ephesians 1 and Psalm 139” – that’s one possible line in the Genesis of your evangelistic conversation with that Gospel-ignorant person. But in the Revelation of your Gospel presentation there should be a clear mention of repentance, uniqueness of Jesus, and eternal hell. While talking about hell, do not use “You”, but use “We” instead. “If we reject Jesus the only way, then we will go to hell!” – that sounds better than, “If you reject Jesus, you will go to hell!” This is a big subject and I have just scratched the surface.

(Rev. Dr. Duke Jeyaraj is the founder of Grabbing the Google Gen from Gehenna Mission, the G4 Mission. This is a listener-supported ministry. Find out more at http://www.dukev.org. Read more articles like this at www.dukewords.com).

“GRACE” WHICH GRATEFUL ROHIT SHARMA EXPERIENCED IN THE INDIA-BANGLADESH WORLD CUP 2019 GAME & HOW CUNNING HYPER-GRACE CULT TEACHERS CONFUSE BELIEVERS – Duke Jeyaraj

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In the India-Bangladesh ODI World Cup 2019 game on 2 July 2019 at Birmingham, Rohit Sharma, who was hailed by the great Virat Kohli as the greatest ever One Day player currently, got a life. When Rohit Sharma was batting on 9 runs when offered a “dolly of a catch”. The Bangladeshi fielder who got under it was Tamin Iqbal. But despite using both his hands, he dropped it. If I was on air giving commentary for that game I would have used one of my favorite commentary lines at that point which is this: “Even my mother-in-law could have caught that one!” Jokes apart, Rohit continued to thrive after that reprieve. He scored his fourth ton of the 2019 World Cup. His partnership of 180 with K.L. Rahul (another Rohit in the making, in my opinion, with the same classiness) had laid for India a solid foundation to score even a possible 400 when they batted first. It was not the first time that Rohit made India’s opponents pay for “giving him grace” by dropping the catches he offered them. One Twitter user put out this tweet immediately: “Dropped on 1 vs SA: Scored 122. Dropped on 2 vs AUS: Scored 57. Dropped on 4 vs ENG: Scored 104.” Yes, Rohit Sharma when shown grace responds with gratitude – the gratitude of accumulating runs for his team.

As believers we are saved by grace of our Lord Jesus who died for us on the Cross. But do we respond with gratitude for the grace that shown to us by exhibiting good works? Apostle Paul wrote some classic stuff in the book of Ephesians talking about this very thing. He wrote that God was “rich in mercy” towards us (Eph. 2:4). So, that is why we too ought to be “full of mercy” in our dealings with others as the proverbs in the New Testament, the book of James tells us (James 3:17). Over to Apostle Paul who makes this crystal clear: “For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast. For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them” (Eph. 2:8-10).
There is an unwarranted tirade going against “good works”/ “works of the law” – thanks to the efforts of the cunning preachers of the cultic hyper-grace movement. They know the Bible is clear when it calls believers who are saved by grace to do good works moved by gratitude (as it is evident from the passage above and several other passages such as Leviticus 11:45/Hosea 3/Zechariah 3:3-7/Titus 2:11-12/Titus 3:4-8/2 Timothy 1:9/Romans 6:4/I Thessalonians 2:13/4:3-5. In Chapter 5 of my book, Straight Talk On Sex, Love, Marriage, Porn and More, I explain this in greater detail). Despite knowing this, the hyper-grace cult teachers make a brazen attempt to confuse believers into believing that a believer should not be concerned about “works” because we are “saved by grace”. But a careful study of the New Testament reveals that “good works” of holiness and ministry and “works of the law” are vastly different. While both cannot save us, the Bible is clear we must do “good works” (moved by gratitude for the grace shown us) while only shunning the “works of the law”. What is this “works of the law”? The writer to the Hebrews explains they are the animal sacrifices, ceremonial laws of the Old Testament which we no longer need to break our heads with as Christ has offered the perfect sacrifice (Heb. 8:13 and I would recommend a full reading of the book). Even in the book of Hebrews we are told of the need to do the “good works” (of holiness). We read in the same book this: “Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous” (Heb. 13:4). This is just another way of repeated one of the 10 commandments which went this way: “Do not commit adultery.” So, the moral, non-ceremonial laws of the Old Testament are still binding on us, believers. We do not follow them to earn our salvation, but because we are saved, out of gratitude, we obey them! If we do not obey them, then as my Calvinist friends tell me, their Armenian friend this: “We must doubt if those who do not do the good works of holiness are really saved in the first place after reading passages such as I John 2:3-5!”

(Duke Jeyaraj is the founder of Grabbing the Google Generation from Gehenna Mission, the G4 Mission, a reader-supported Indian ministry. Find out more at www.dukev.org. Read Duke’s writings at www.dukewords.com.)

 

MADE FREE, TO MAKE OTHERS FREE, THINKING OF THIS E-E-E Duke Jeyaraj’s E-E-E Special Bible Devotion / July 4 2019 / American Independence Day

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Today as America celebrates its Independence Day, this Scripture comes to my mind: ‘They promise them freedom, while they themselves are slaves of depravity—for “people are slaves to whatever has mastered them”’ (2 Peter 2:19). The False Teachers in Apostle Peter’s time were not truly free themselves – yet they promised freedom to others! We can be like them! Yes, America has been called the “land of the free and the home of the brave”! Yes, in America one has freedom when it comes EXPRESSION (only in this country can an immigrant make fun of the sitting president without any fear of his safety). Yes, America has freedom when it comes to the ECONOMY (in this country dignity of labour and the level of dignity of labour is unparalleled). But the question is do you, whoever you may be, do you have the all-important freedom with regard to ETERNITY? And that freedom comes only from a living, daily relationship with the only one who has never been a slave to sin – even Jesus Christ, the only God-in-flesh who died for us on the Cross and rose again from the dead. Having known this freedom, let us promise freedom for others who are still imprisoned by Satan and sin.

(Duke Jeyaraj is the founder of Grabbing the Google Generation from Gehenna Mission. Find out more at http://www.dukev.org. Read Duke’s articles at http://www.dukewords.com).

WHAT DESTROYS A NATION? A DUKE JEYARAJ MEDITATION FROM THE BIBLE CHAPTER THAT TALKS ABOUT THE END OF THE NORTHERN KINGDOM OF ISRAEL / JULY 4, US INDEPENDENCE DAY SPECIAL

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2 Kings 17 talks about the end of the Northern Kingdom of Israel. This chapter gives us a clue as to what destroys a nation. On July 4, America celebrates its Independence Day. On August 15, India does the same. What causes a nation to lose its freedom?

GRACE FORGOTTEN – 2 Kings 17:7 goes this way: ‘For so it was that the children of Israel had sinned against the Lord their God, WHO HAD BROUGHT THEM UP OUR OF THE LAND OF EGYPT….’ It was by grace, that the people of Israel came out of Egyptian bondage. Israel could have lived a life pleasing to God if they had understood this simple thing: Because God saved us by Grace when we were in bondage in Egypt, we have the responsibility of living holy enabled by Grace in the Promised Land. But they blew it. And their end was around the corner. Have you forgotten what God gave to your country/gave you? That’s a recipe for disaster.

OMNISCIENCE OF GOD FORGOTTEN – 2 Kings 17:9 goes this way: Also the children of Israel SECRETLY did against the Lord their God things that were not right, and they rebuilt for themselves high places in all their cities…. When the people of Israel did anything in secret and thought to themselves, “no one knows what we just did”, they were fooling themselves because our God knows everything. What was a high place? (1) an image or pillar for the male fertility deity, usually some Baal (2) a wooden image or a green tree for the female consort of the Baal (V10). (Holman Study Bible, page 621). Baal religion involved having sex with the temple prostitutes who lived in tents around those temples. Baal supposedly would see this, and get sexually excited and finally the sexual climax fluid of Baal was called ‘rain’ (as gross as it gets). Israeli men might have sneaked into these ‘sex-offering tents thinking ‘no one saw me’ but God saw them! That secret sinful habit you are perhaps in, can weight you down, rob you of all joy!

IDOL’S NATURE BEGOTTEN – 2 Kings 17:15 – they followed idols, became idolaters (NKJV). You become what you really worship! So be careful what you really worship! Are we worshiping gadgets, impersonal and other inanimate objects (like the Amazon Firestick)? We can become incapable of relating with people, like these inanimate objects are!

WORD OF GOD FORGOTTEN – 2 Kings 17:13-14 tells us stubborn disobedience to the written word of God led to their downfall. A nation or a person which/who crosses biblical boundaries can get into serious trouble down the line. God is the author of the Bible. His Word being our final court of appeal for all matters of belief and behavior is the best possible safety net while we live in a world created by Him! That means pornography (2 Sam. 11:17), homosexuality (Romans 1) and other things which the world passes as normal, we abhor. We do not hate the sinner, but we hate the sin, following the example of Jesus’ interaction with the money-loving Rich Young Ruler (Mark 10:21 onwards).

(Duke Jeyaraj is the founder of Grabbing the Google Gen from Gehenna Mission, Find out more at Www.dukev.org. This is a viewer supported Indian ministry to presentday people. This website exclusively hosts Duke’s articles). 

 

INDIA TAMES BANGLA TIGERS IN THE WORLD CUP 2019 GROUP GAME – 3G BIBLE LESSONS – DUKE JEYARAJ

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India beat the Bangla Tigers who showed tigerish resolve to run India close in the 2019 ODI World Cup to become the second team after Australia to reach the semifinals.

This win reminded of three “G” Bible Lessons:

  1. The LESSON ABOUT GRIND

 

For me, the hero of this India win was Jasprit Bumrah. They were very much in the game with Sabbir Rahman and Mohammed Saifuddin striking the ball well.  They took 17 runs off Mohammed Shami’s over – over number 38 – and piled up 66 runs together. In the first ball of over number 43, Jasprit Bumrah bowled Sabbir and ended what could have been a match-winning stand. Let’s scroll down to the 48th over. Saifuddin was batting with the tail of the Tigers (Bangladesh) with his tail up having reached a well-made 50. 36 were needed in three overs for Bangladesh – not at all impossible in a world post-T20’s Genesis. Now over to Karthik Krishaswamy’s words in EspnCricinfo as to what happened next: “The equation came down to 29 off 14 when Saifuddin took a single to bring the No. 10 Rubel Hossain on strike for the last two balls of Bumrah’s quota of overs. Those two balls was all Bumrah needed, two inch-perfect yorkers proving too good for Rubel and Mustafizur.”

Post the game Jasprit Bumrah, who is nicknamed the “Bootlace Bomber” for his inch-perfect, high-speed yorkers talked about the “grind” he goes through, day in and day out, which gives him the confidence and ability to bowl during the Death Overs.

“Everything is preparation. I do it again and again in the nets. The more you do it the better you get. You can’t master it but I’m still trying to get better. It’s all about repetition. Do it again and again and try and replicate in the game. Whenever I practise in the nets, I practise each and every situation. Be it with the new ball, be it with the old ball, bowling at the death. So if I have ticked all the boxes in the nets it’s all about execution in the match and keeping it simple. If the work ethic is good, the execution is much easier.”

When I read that I went “Wow!” This Bumrah does not mind bending his back to practice. Before the show, he doesn’t mind the sweat and do the hard-yards. He bowls full-throttle even during India’s net practice sessions. His toe-crushing Yorker in India’s practice game injured Indian all-rounder Vijay Shankar, forcing India to replace him with Mayank Agrawal in the team of 15. Even in practice sessions, Bumrah goes boom, boom, boom.

What about us? Do we mind the grind when it comes to God’s Work? Apostle Paul testified, “I worked harder than all of them–yet not I, but the grace of God that was with me” (I Cor. 15:10). Enabled by the Grace of God Paul did the work of God, working extremely hard. His ministry was characterized by “hard work” and “sleepless nights” (2 Cor. 6:5). I believe in working hard when it comes to God’s Work. There are times when I stay up almost the whole night after an important world event of interest to the Google Generation (the World Cup Football Finals/the World Cup Cricket Semifinals featuring India, etc) crafting poems, writing articles which wrap interesting things from that game around Bible truths, so that God’s people can read and be encouraged the very next day. Needless to say, it is all by the grace of God as I often couple my key-board punches for God with silent speaking in tongues. May I encourage you to do what you are called to do – taking a class, making a speech, preparing a bouquet for a guest – with the best of your ability for the glory of God?

  1. THE LESSON ABOUT GRACE

In this game, Rohit Sharma, who was hailed by the great Virat Kohli as the greatest ever One Day player currently, got a life. When Rohit Sharma was batting on 9 runs when offered a “dolly of a catch”. The Bangladeshi fielder who got under it was Tamin Iqbal. But despite using both his hands, he dropped it. If I was on air giving commentary for that game I would have used one of my favorite commentary lines at that point which is this: “Even my mother-in-law could have caught that one!” Jokes apart, Rohit continued to thrive after that reprieve. He scored his fourth ton of the 2019 World Cup. His partnership of 180 with K.L. Rahul (another Rohit in the making, in my opinion, with the same classiness) had laid for India a solid foundation to score even a possible 400 when they batted first. It was not the first time that Rohit made India’s opponents pay for “giving him grace” by dropping the catches he offered them. One Twitter user put out this tweet immediately: “Dropped on 1 vs SA: Scored 122. Dropped on 2 vs AUS: Scored 57. Dropped on 4 vs ENG: Scored 104.” Yes, Rohit Sharma when shown grace responds with gratitude – the gratitude of accumulating runs for his team.

As believers we are saved by grace of our Lord Jesus who died for us on the Cross. But do we respond with gratitude for the grace that shown to us by exhibiting good works? Apostle Paul wrote some classic stuff in the book of Ephesians talking about this very thing. He wrote that God was “rich in mercy” towards us (Eph. 2:4). So, that is why we too ought to be “full of mercy” in our dealings with others as the proverbs in the New Testament, the book of James tells us (James 3:17). Over to Apostle Paul who makes this crystal clear: “For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast. For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them” (Eph. 2:8-10).

There is an unwarranted tirade going against “good works”/ “works of the law” – thanks to the efforts of the cunning preachers of the cultic hyper-grace movement. They know the Bible is clear when it calls believers who are saved by grace to do good works moved by gratitude (as it is evident from the passage above and several other passages such as Leviticus 11:45/Hosea 3/Zechariah 3:3-7/Titus 2:11-12/Titus 3:4-8/2 Timothy 1:9/Romans 6:4/I Thessalonians 2:13/4:3-5. In Chapter 5 of my book, Straight Talk On Sex, Love, Marriage, Porn and More, I explain this in greater detail). Despite knowing this, the hyper-grace cult teachers make a brazen attempt to confuse believers into believing that a believer should not be concerned about “works” because we are “saved by grace”. But a careful study of the New Testament reveals that  “good works” of holiness and ministry and  “works of the law” are vastly different. While both cannot save us, the Bible is clear we must do “good works” (moved by gratitude for the grace shown us) while only shunning the “works of the law”. What is this “works of the law”? The writer to the Hebrews explains they are the animal sacrifices, ceremonial laws of the Old Testament which we no longer need to break our heads with as Christ has offered the perfect sacrifice (Heb. 8:13 and I would recommend a full reading of the book). Even in the book of Hebrews we are told of the need to do the “good works” (of holiness). We read in the same book this: “Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous” (Heb. 13:4). This is just another way of repeated one of the 10 commandments which went this way: “Do not commit adultery.” So, the moral, non-ceremonial laws of the Old Testament are still binding on us, believers. We do not follow them to earn our salvation, but because we are saved, out of gratitude, we obey them! If we do not obey them, then as my Calvinist friends tell me, their Armenian friend this: “We must doubt if those who do not do the good works of holiness are really saved in the first place! After reading passages such as I John 2:3-5!”

Back to the India-Bangladesh ODI World Cup Group Game of 2019. We have finished learning two lessons starting with G – lesson about the grind, the lesson about Grace. Now for the final G lesson:

  1. THE LESSON ABOUT GRANDMOMS

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As the India-Bangladesh went on, the camera panned the audience and zeroed in on a 87-old woman, Charulatha. She had the Indian tricolor splashed across her wrinkled cheeks. Her cheeks may have been wrinkled but her throat’s strength never seem to have dwindled. She blew a horn to cheer the men in the blue – the Indian team. She apparently was in the ground to cheer for India, when India first won the ODI Cricket World Cup in 1983 in the Lord’s Cricket Ground in England. The commentators on air hailed her as an “internet sensation”.  Post the match, Virat Kohli was on his knees expressing his happiness upon seeing support for the Indian team even from the members of the older generation. He sent a tweet with his picture with her as well.

I am more of a Rohit Sharma fan than a Virat Kohli fan. But this gesture of Virat moved my heart. He did not have to meet a fan post a high-voltage game. But he chose to. His respect for elders was obvious here. In some places he overdoes respect for elders (by not rapping the go-slow-in-death-overs super senior Dhoni), but in this case it was clearly in place.

A lot of Google Genners do not respect the elderly. This is sad. One of the moral laws of the Old Testaments that we are still bound to follow (see the point I made above) concerns respect for the elderly. It goes this way: “‘Stand up in the presence of the aged, show respect for the elderly and revere your God. I am the LORD (Lev. 19:32). Standing up in reverence for the “ancient of Days” and standing up in the presence of those ancient in years (the elderly) – both can’t be separated.

May I share a personal story now? My ailing maternal uncle passed away in January 2019. My mom  told me this when I was a little boy: “Mummy stayed in your mama’s (talking about him) place in Chennai when you were born. He opened his house for me so that I would be comfortable during the delivery and so I did have to travel to far-from-Vellore, Rajapalayam, when my parents lived.” I never forgot that – because against my place of birth, Chennai is entered (though I grew up in Vellore). I also never forgot his brief words of support for me when I wanted to marry my wife against all odds. So when he passed away, though he was going to be buried in far-away Madurai, I decided to be there. I decided to hang around and help his son and daughters in the funeral arrangements. Nothing great about it. Anyone would have done it. And my maternal aunty (I call her periamma) told me post the burial as I served food for her, “You have honoured the memory of your mama today!” I was over the moon. No – I have not been respectful of elders always. But in January 2019, the Lord Jesus gave me the grace to make it up! Is your life dotted with “respect-for-elders” events?

Does respect for elders mean obeying whatever they tell you? No. Jonathan did not obey his dad Saul who wanted him to kill David. But even when he disagreed with his dad, he respectfully disagreed. We see that Jonathan used the phrase “King” and “please” (as per some translations, see I Samuel 19:4-5/ “Please don’t attack David” – The Message) in his interactions with King Saul on matters he could not just obey his dad. If your parents do not approve your decision to marry another believer quoting unbiblical reasons such as caste, you may disagree with them, but do it respectfully.

Well, the G lessons can keep continuing. But I want to stop here. We will meet again post India’s game versus Sri Lanka.

(Duke Jeyaraj is the founder of Grabbing the Google Generation from Gehenna Mission, the G4 Mission. This is a reader supported Indian ministry. Find out more at www.dukev.org. Read each article that Duke has written with regard to the Cricket World Cup 2019 at www.dukewords.com – an exclusive website where Duke posts only his article. Visit http://www.Youtube.com/VisitDuke to view Duke’s messages).

The B questions to ask before you choose your life partner – Duke Jeyaraj

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You are perhaps considering someone. You are perhaps praying about someone. “Someone,” who? Someone, who could be your life partner. Someone you would wake up with for the rest of your life. Someone who would be father/mother to your babies. It’s a big decision. You can change your computer printer – but not your life partner, according to the Bible. That’s why, this is a big decision. How can you be sure that a certain ‘someone’ is God’s chosen person to be your life partner? Here are some key questions to ask yourself before you prayerfully decide:

1. Is that person a BELIEVER? Is that person BORNAGAIN? The Bible is clear: falling in love with an unbeliever and later converting that  person to Christ is not an acceptable or recorded missionary statergy in the Bible. If the person you are interested in, is not a believer ALREADY, you are not certainly in the will of God with regard to your life partner choice. The one you take to bed, will influence your head, even if you are the wisest man on the earth. Ask Solomon he will tell you. He ended up worshipping idols influenced by his idol-worshipping wives. He did not convert them. They converted him.

2. Can you sail in that person’s BOAT? In other words, do both of you have the same life goal? Are you both willing to sail in the same direction, like Mr. and Mrs. Noah were? Or do you resemble Mr. and Mrs. Lot – a couple that went in the opposite directions? Amos 3:3 says, ‘two people who walk together must be agreed with each other’. Marriage is a life-long walk together. If you are desirous of being involved in ministry during your offs and other free times and if your partner does not enjoy this at all, say ‘tata’ to that partner.

3. Does the person possess the same BRAIN-WAVE LENGTH as you do? Marriage is not about having sex 24/7. It is about conversations over coffee. Converstations in bed.  Conversations and more conversations. Find a person with you can converse with without having to make too much effort. Find a person in the same wave-length as you are in.

4. Is that person BEAUTIFUL in your eyes? Read Ezekiel 24. In that chapter, you will discover the Prophet Ezekiel called his wife, ‘the delight of my eyes’. It is important that you find a partner you looks beautiful in your eyes or is as beautiful as you are (so make sure you keep looking at the mirror often so that you know how ‘beautiful’ you first are – sorry, if I was too blunt here!). Beauty, of course,  lies in the eye of the beholder. But don’t make beauty the only deciding factor. It is only skin deep or make-up deep or studio-photography deep (in today’s world!). Kick away traditional views on beauty – ‘the girl should be milk white!’,  ‘the boy should be twin towers tall!’ etc, etc. Grow up!

5. Does that person have the BUCKS to take care of you? After you get married, both of you need to pool in resources and make ends meet. If that is not going to be feasible, think again about the choice of the life partner, you are about to make. Dowry-demanding, directly or indirectly is wrong.It amounts to male-prostitution, according to me. And male-prostitutes do not make it to heaven, mind you, the Bible records! But a boy and a girl who are going to get married must count the cost of starting a new family and must be willing to adjust and live with the financial resources they pool-in together. Both the girl’s parents and the boy’s parents must bless them voluntarily with resources to help them settle down and start a new home.

6. Does that person have a BADGE OF APPROVAL from the elders? Samson and Easu threw out good parental advice when it came to life partner choice and paid for it, dearly. If advice from elders comes in line with God’s Word, take it. You would be wiser at the end of the day.

Keeping these ‘ 6 B’ questions in mind you can be wise in your life partner choice. Pray about the matter. If you have peace go ahead. If peace follows your prayer, the decision you have taken in line with God’s written Word, the Bible, is a God-guarded decision (Phil 4:6,7).  Do not postpone your choice of life partner giving some excuse or the other or by looking for a perfect life partner. When beauty queens did this, they became beggers (Isa 4:1).

There is another way one can look at this question:

Commanding Scripture: Is the partner I am considering a believer?

II Cor 6:14

Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?

Controlling Spirit: Do I have peace when I pray about him/her?

Phil 4

The Lord is at hand; 6 do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. 7 And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

Counsel of Saints: Do others who mean good to me, especially elders and parents, think we will make a good pair?

Proverbs 11:14

Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety.

Circumstantial Signs: Is God opening the doors for me to marry that person? For example, is she/he saying ‘s’ to the proposal of marriage?

Genesis 24

Behold, I am standing by the spring of water, and the daughters of the men of the city are coming out to draw water. 14 Let the young woman to whom I shall say, ‘Please let down your jar that I may drink,’ and who shall say, ‘Drink, and I will water your camels’—let her be the one whom you have appointed for your servant Isaac. By this [2] I shall know that you have shown steadfast love to my master.”

For the 4 ‘CSs’ I just used, I am grateful to Nicky Gumbel who first talked about them in one of his books.

Post Script: This article is for those who are working and in the age bracket to be married.  But if you still studying, please concentrate on your studies and be friends with everyone in your class instead of spending all your time with a boyfriend or girlfriend; student days are not the best times for romantic love; there is time for everything! (Eccl 3). Falling in love during your student days could potentially drill two holes into your system, one, in your heart, and, another, in your purse!

(Duke Jeyaraj is the founder of Grabbing the Google Generation from Gehenna Mission – G4 Mission – an ministry to presentday people supported by individual Indians who are blessed by Duke’s messages and articles. Find out more about Duke and this ministry by liking www.facebook.com/googleduke and www.facebook.com/dukebook or visiting www.dukev.org)